Moving into the present or “Now” is becoming fascinating. For many years, I prayed for a better life without the problems and hurts. Over the years, I learned to let go of past painful luggage and future worries for a daily pleasant mood. When I release fears and false beliefs, this makes room for inner love. Freeing those thoughts and ideas not aligned with love created the space where love can expand. This is often called growing up.
Facing my challenges I describe in my column, I find myself in a new place. Life around me seems different. I am not seeing issues around me in the same perception. It feels like I am not being caught up in the drama of politics, family, or friends. It is a sense of being in the “eye of the hurricane” where it is calm and the winds are blowing beyond me however, they are not affecting me.
I first recognized my new experience at my friend’s family Christmas meal this year. They were his family and he would not miss their traditional Christmas morning brunch. In the past members of his family were difficult, argumentative, and egotistical. It was not a comfortable circumstance for me. I was in a room of people, where I was not really part of the family; I felt out of place.
However this year, I sat there feeling calm, pleasant, and easy instead of reacting as prior to the drama; it was not the same feelings. Everything seemed objective; however, they had not changed. It took me some time to realize it felt like serenity.
I found myself emotionally moved away from my judgments of the past, to accepting each person as they are. The issues were dissolved and gone. This new space was pleasant but unfamiliar. I had changed by not reacting to their games, problems, or controlling ways. I had moved into being current. Could I do this with the rest of my life?
The circumstances that arise from these relationships are the very faults in me that I need to heal with the love and forgiveness within. Knowing today, that those situations outside of me are a representation of what I need to heal in me. This understanding formed a new me; I was my own foe.
Today, I have self-love. I do not need them to love me, take care of me, or keep me from being lonely. My inner spiritual awareness is alive and well, taking care of me better than anyone does. Finally, I am content with me.
Then, more old emotional problems surfaced from my side of the family and I found I could place myself in the calm center again. Seeing those who had been upsetting to me in the past was providing me with another issue within myself to heal. This time I released the anger and expectations. Everyone is exactly where he or she is supposed to be in his or her experience. Understanding that they are being themselves, and it is not my job to change them is emerging in my life. “Live and let Live” is a slogan that I finally understood.
Life comes from within me and not from others. If I focus on what I am doing and just send forgiveness, love, or acceptance to those around me, I am acting mature. This peace surpasses all understanding. I have now joined the realm of spirit. In the next column, I discover a conscious contact with my inner spirit.
Surprisingly, I found myself in grief. Feeling grief is new to me, too. Letting go of the old me was bringing up sorrow for the past leaving and dying. However, I like the idea of the previous me leaving.
The earlier issues are no longer a concern. I am detached from my miserable past of people and situations. I came into the feeling of being in the world but not of it. Now, I am free to be myself and enjoy life. Lately, I am watching funny movies because laughter is good medicine.
I found this suggestion from Mother Teresa is a great help to maintain empowerment, sanity, and success. It was found on the wall in Mother Teresa’s home for children in Calcutta.
People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and sincere, people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten. Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.
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