Changing the Negative to the Positive
By Marilyn L. Redmond, BA, ABH, IBRT
Were you raised in a family that was happy, laughed, or worked as a team? When the family history has trauma, fear, anger, shame, or other negativity, it is passed on to the children. I found I was a good sponge to the emotions and past trauma of my family, which was dysfunctional with anger, fear, and mental illness passed on to them. I was so used to the negative attitudes, judgments, and survival of my family, that I followed their modeling. It goes down through the generations. Therefore, I followed their lead. I did not know there was another way to handle life.
It has taken years to peel the onion to realize, I was living the life of my parents. History was repeating itself in my life. I thought if I married, I could create a happy family where we were close and helpful to each other with love. I tried very hard to be the perfect wife, mother, teacher, homemaker, and more. It all lead to a disaster over time, as I married someone with the same influences as my family of origin. I went to church, took my children to church, and looked good at my job and in the neighborhood. It just got worse as inside the walls of our house. There was no peace and happiness.
Through the trauma I endured which mirrored my childhood, I prayed spontaneously, “God I do not want to die”. My prayers were answered and I ended up in a treatment center for being addicted to the pills from my psychiatrist. I had gone for help, but the pills had addicted me. I learned about meditation in their program. My church had preached against meditation and this was difficult to change.
I had never heard of faith or to trust the universe. I could not trust my parents, how could I trust something I could not see, a spirit of love that created the universe. When I found it is a Creative Intelligence, a Spirit of the Universe underlying the totality of things,I began to be possessed of a new sense of power and direction, provided I took other simple steps. I realized the Creator was in my heart, it was love. Love is always positive. It is there for each of us.
With the decision to move out of the negativity, I choose to change from being fear based in my life to being love based. That my ego was running my life was new to me. I just did what I was told in the past from my family, husband, work, church, and medicine. It seemed to be making my life as if I were living in a nightmare. Ego can mean Edging God Out. I needed to move from my head/ego into my heart. I decided to merge God in to my life that meant coming from love. This decision is still playing out with my finding that I can create a happy and healthier life.
I wanted to affirm the truth about me and not what I had been raised to believe. Over the years I identified all my fears, guilt, shame, jealously, and more to replace them with a positive confirmation. Over time, my thinking changed with daily validation of my worthiness and value. I found using my new affirmations and using Flower Essences allowed the old negative messages to flow out of my consciousness and leave space for the positive messages to replace them. My life was gradually changing as I used different Flower Essences to release newly identified negativity and turn it around into being positive.
I now substitute the positive for the negative and my life is growing into the light of truth. What if the dark truth of the future gets filled with your light when it arrives? Expecting the most benevolent things for yourself and others to actually create a powerful energy that is then part of creating your own reality.
My life has transformed to seeing through the eyes of goodness in all things. I learn the lessons to move on from each upset. I can now respond in loving solutions instead of reacting from the past fears and trauma. Now when I get out of bed in the morning, I can expect good things and I feel a light to go before me with whatever I am faced. I have grown up and matured into adulthood. .
I was told to change everything and I have. I wrote the details for this process in “Paradigm Busters” at Amazon. The process for changing fear, resentments, and other parts of life are given in information, real stories, and charts to sort out changes in your thinking. I am no longer that powerless, victim used by others. My insides now match my outsides, most of the time. Love never fails. I am able to have a life where I have my own power to be true to myself.
“Paradigm Busters” is a new approach for a New Age. https://www.amazon.com/Marilyn-Redmond/e/B0069WIKDC “This book contains a lifetime of wisdom and insight into the mind-body-spirit connection of healing and wholeness. If you are trying to reach new levels of health or trying to find your purpose in life, this book is a must read.” ~ Dr. Kathleen Drake, Chiropractor “Marilyn Redmond has spent her life bringing light and love from the realm of angels and spirit to this world of ours. In this book she shares with us, some of her rich history as she helps us better understand the beauty of our own Divine selves.” ~ Gladys Taylor McGarey M.D. MD [H] “Happiness is an inside job, which can never be reached with drugs! Following this wise advice could save your life, and a great deal of suffering. HUGS, Norm.” ~ C. Norman Shealy, M.D., Ph.D. President, Holos Institutes of Health Professor Emeritus of Energy Medicine President Emeritus Holos University Graduate Seminary
